Learning to Understand

“I just don’t understand.”

“She’s… evil. I can’t believe she would do that to you.” My brother said this on the phone while I paced through the house leaving a trail of steam behind. I was so mad at her for leaving me, for cheating on me, for destroying our marriage. And that question was all that was on my mind. But she never could tell me why.

After the separation I set out to read everything I possibly could to understand why. I read book after book about narcissism, abuse, post-traumatic infidelity, relationships… because I just wanted to figure it out. I needed to get it, to find some kind of reason why this would happen. I don’t think I’m alone in that: trying to pick up the pieces after a hard breakup.

However, unexpectedly, the answer came in the form of a book called The New Codependency by Melody Beattie. In it, I found something that changed my whole world:

I am powerless over other’s behavior and my own life had become unmanageable.

Understanding the way that I tried to control how other people responded to me or stay in relationship with me even when it didn’t make sense was the key to beginning my healing process.

I understood in that moment that I was the one person who could make the difference in my life. Only I could choose to be in relationships where I was also chosen back, loved well, and seen as valued… because that was what I needed to see in myself.

My mind had figured out what I needed. It took my heart some time to catch up and truly start healing, but that was the next stage of my life. I needed understanding first, and I keep finding new things to learn.

If you can admit you don’t understand some things about life, then GOOD. You’re a genius. Only a fool pretends he knows everything.

Seeking understanding starts your process. And Guy School is there to support you in that.

Guy School is a community of men who are committed to understanding themselves and the healing process. I want to equip you with the knowledge you need to get started and keep going on the healing journey:

-What to do after a breakup
-How to stop feeling anxious all the time and use that energy for good
-Where to go when you feel like a burden
-How to take charge of your own life
-Where to find your gifts and how to start using them
-What it takes to become a powerful, magnetic man

It’s not just a one-day retreat or a momentary experience. It’s a lifelong process. And we want to be there to support you along the way.

We’re looking for guys who want to grow while also giving us more information to make Guy School EXTRAORDINARY. We need men like you so that we can know where we can best offer something valuable to men working on their mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

And here is the kicker: IT’S FREE.

For the first five men to get signed up, all we ask is for feedback, information on what you want to learn more about, and ideas to improve the community.

Now, we haven’t started quite yet. Building it is an adventure, and I can’t wait to release it to you. But, if you’re here, that means YOU are one of the few who I want to have join up as soon as we start.

I’ll be sending another message to you with the date we’re releasing so you can sign up before everyone else. Keep your eye out!

In the meantime, we have free resources that you may have seen. If you’re part of this list, then you’ve already gotten access, but you may not have read them.

Your challenge is this:
1. Read through one or two of the free resources here. 
2. Send us some feedback here. - We want to know what’s helpful to you and what you’d like to see more of. Thank you in advance!

Understanding that you are here, receiving this message just in perfect time is going to support you in so many ways. You have the power to understand; I just want to give you the tools to get to a more incredible understanding and accelerate your healing journey!

Peace to you brother,
Anthony. 

Guy School
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